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March 21, 2011

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Wendy

Congratulations--what an exciting step for your family! I've had the privilege of being a stay-at-home mom for the last 2 years, and although I may be returning to part-time work in the next few months, I will do everything I can to return home as soon as possible. I'm sure you'll never regret the sacrifices!

moleymakes

Well done Heather! I have always been a stay at home mum. Yes, it meant that we couldn't go on holidays, go out for meals or have really nice furniture and other material possessions that so many other families seem to crave. It was and still is hard living on one income.

What they did have was somebody who was always there for them. Somebody who spent time playing, teaching and making things with them. Someone to comfort them if they were hurt or upset, to always listen to them and to show them how to learn from mistakes.

My kids are now, 21, 19 and 16. They are not materialistic, unlike a lot of their peers. They are happy and content with their young lives and appreciate everything no matter how small.

I've seen so many young people who were latchkey kids or who were brought up by childminders/nannies. They barely know their parents so therefore can't have a relationship with them. They're angry, shallow, materialistic, unappreciative, feel displaced, just generally screwed up as individuals.

Mothers within the western world are caught within a rock and a hard placed. Society expects them to go back to work after a few months of giving birth. Yet at the same time they are vilified for doing so. Choose to become a traditional housewife/mother and you're seen as lazy and not contributing to society and the economy and get looked upon by disdain.

I think if more women gave up their careers to become full time mums, we wouldn't have half the problems we have today with crime, drug abuse, anti social behaviour, etc. That in itself IS a contribution to society and the economy that you can't put a price on.

Enjoy your new role. It will be hard at times but if you can stick at it for as long as you can, you will be amply rewarded.

Heather

Thanks for the support. I was certainly not an easy decision to make, although it should have been. Ive been, as you said, stuck between a rock and hard place for a long time. I knew that it would be best for my children to stay home, however, we havent been secure enough financially -- mostly due to our own mistakes -- to make it happen until now. As a young couple, my husband and I lived outside of our means and accumulated a lot of debt. We have spent the past several years getting out of debt and learning how to live on a budget. During this time our view on money has completely changed. We dont feel the need to acquire stuff anymore and we know that family is so much more important than things.

Im so happy to have the opportunity to be there for my kids, just as you have done. And I hope that one day I will be able to say the same about my own children.

Heather

Thanks Wendy. We are so excited...Im even excited over the prospect of cooking from scratch --- something I never thought I would enjoy doing! Itll be an adventure for sure and I am so looking forward to it.

Janet

Heather,

I'm so happy for you! I know you will enjoy being at home with your kids and not having to fit all your wife and mom experiences into small bits of the evening and weekends. I bet as you get going you will find more and more ways to economize and enjoy what you have. Congratulations!!!

Janet

Heather

Thanks Janet! I've been reading and researching all I can about ways to save money and live a more frugally (not sure if that is a real word). We also expanded our garden this year so at least we'll be able to do most of the grocery shopping in the backyard!

Angie

Heather,

Congratulations, that's awesome!! So happy for you. It's definitely not taking the EASY route, but I think it's for sure the most creative, productive and rewarding way to go! Can't wait to read about your adventures:)
Also, thank you for introducing the twisted trivet pattern a while back, I made one and loved it!! It's really fun.

Jodi

What a wonderful decision you are making....I know you will never regret this choice. I wish with all my heart that I had the gumption to up and leave my job, but I spend a lot of time worrying about future things. I never had the guts to go ahead and do it -- and to just enjoy the moment.

Heather

Thank you for the support Jodi. Im worrying about the future too and Ive had my share of second thoughts about the whole thing. But in my heart, I know its going to be the right choice for my family.

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